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A bride should be five
years younger than her groom, should come from the same
cultural background, and be the more intelligent of the
pair if couples are to have a successful marriage,
scientists have announced.
London, 3 March 2010 (Telegraph) - Sticking to the
formula would increase a couple's chances of a long and
happy marriage by a fifth, the team from the Geneva
School of Business found.
One couple that the formula appears to fit is the Queen
and the Duke of Edinburgh.
At 83, Her Majesty is four years, 10-and-a-half month
younger than the Duke.
They certainly share the same sort of background, even
if the foreign-born Duke - a member of the Greek and
Danish royal families by birth - had to become a
naturalised British subject before their marriage.
As to their respective intelligence, that would not be
for one to speculate.
However, it would be fair to say that the Queen's
natural sense of diplomacy has shone through countless
times over the decades, matched on some occasions only
by the Duke's seemingly innate ability to offend.
Their marriage has now seen off the slings and arrows of
outrageous fortune for more than six decades, since they
wed at Westminster Abbey in November 1947.
The academic study, published in the European Journal of
Operational Research looked at 1,074 couples aged
between 19 and 75 years, to find which social factors
were most important to a long and happy relationship.
Besides the man being five years older than his bride,
and that his bride should share the same heritage, they
concluded that a wife should be at least 27 per cent
more intelligent than her husband. She should also hold
a degree, while he should not.
Perhaps unsurprisingly, the academics found that
marrying a divorcee reduced the chance of wedded bliss.
Nguyen Vi Cao, who led the research, promised: "If
people follow these guidelines in choosing their
partners they can increase their chances of a happy,
long marriage by up to 20 per cent.”
Relationship experts thought there might be something in
the research.
Kate Figes, who interviewed 120 people for her recent
book on understanding relationship, Couples, said:
"Aren't most women the more intelligent in a
relationship anyway? That's my first reaction.
"It's the only finding that rings true, from what I've
found. Because it's women who tend to determine the
emotional landscape of a relationship," she said.
"So I don't find it surprising that women should be more
intelligent."
However, she warned that men should not resign
themselves to stupefying passivity.
"Intelligent men understand that for a relationship to
be happy, their partner has to be happy," she said.
Linda Blair, the clinical psychologist and author of
Straight Talking, thought there could be an evolutionary
reason for women to be the more intelligent partner in
successful long-term relationships.
She said: "Going back to prehistory, women have needed
to invest more in relationships than men, because men
are more biologically adapted to spread their seed
around.”
They were therefore more likely to invest their
intellectual abilities in maintaining that bond, she
rationalised.
"But you can convince yourself of anything," she added.
However, Christine Northam, a marriage counsellor for
Relate, said dismissively of the findings: "There are
lies, lies and statistics.”
She could not agree that wives should be more
intelligent than their husbands.
"Modern marriage is about both of you having an input in
the relationship," said Mrs Northam, who has been
married for 41 years.
"It's about teamwork. It's not about one being dominant
over the other." (Stephen Adams)
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