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In Titus 2:3-5 the apostle
Paul charges the older women in the church to teach the
younger women "to be sober, to love their husbands, to
love their children, to be discreet, keepers at home,
good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of
God be not blasphemed." The instruction for women to be
"keepers at home" generally has been understood by the
church as teaching that the sphere of a married woman's
work is her home. This understanding is reflected by the
Puritan commentator Matthew Poole, who interpreted the
phrase to mean: "housewives, not spending their time
gadding abroad, but in looking to the affairs of their
own families." (Matthew Poole, A Commentary on the Holy
Bible, 3 vols. (Edinburgh, [1685] 1990), 3:803) The
Christian woman as a housewife, looking diligently to
the affairs of her family, was the standard in Puritan
New England.
In seventeenth century New England no respectable person
questioned that a woman's place was in the home. By the
laws of Massachusetts as by those of England a married
woman could hold no property of her own. When she became
a wife, she gave up everything to her husband and
devoted herself exclusively to managing his household.
Henceforth her duty was to "keep at home, educating her
children, keeping and improving what is got by the
industry of the man." (Edmund S. Morgan, The Puritan
Family (New York, 1944), 42)
However, this view went beyond the Puritans and was the
perspective of all branches of the church and a central
aspect of Western Christian culture. For example, Lenski,
the eminent Lutheran commentator, stated that the phrase
"keepers at home" indicates domestic responsibility and
that the home is the place of a married woman's work;
she is a "housekeeper" who dispenses "all good things in
this domain." (R. C. H. Lenski, The Interpretation of
Paul's Epistles to the Colossians, to the Thessalonians,
to Timothy, to Titus and to Philemon (Minneapolis,
1937), 912) Nonetheless, in accord with the spirit of
our age that looks in disdain upon the notion that the
sphere of a married woman's work is her home, many in
the church have rejected the earlier consensus
understanding of "keepers at home." Instead, to be
"keepers at home" is interpreted to mean that a wife and
mother is "to be busy at home" (NIV), i.e., she "should
not be idle or derelict in fulfilling home duties."
(Richard A. Taylor, "Who Are 'Keepers at Home'?"
Reflections (Spring 1982), 17) In other words, "keepers
at home" does not define the married woman's calling or
the sphere of her work, but is simply an admonition not
to neglect her domestic duties. Therefore, a wife and
mother may pursue a career outside of the home as a
lawyer, teacher, sales clerk, etc.as long as she
fulfills her responsibilities in the home.
The difference between the traditional interpretation of
"keepers at home" and the modern version is
considerable. While the traditional interpretation
established the home as the sphere of a married woman's
work and calling, the modern understanding says that the
term does nothing of the kind. While the traditional
interpretation defined a married woman's "career" as
homemaking, the modern view teaches that a married woman
may pursue a career outside of the home as long as she
does not neglect homemaking. While the traditional
interpretation calls the woman to focus her energy,
time, and talents in the home in the service of her
family, the modern view says that she is not so
"restricted" and may go outside the home for her
employment. Which is the correct understanding? It is
our belief that the traditional interpretation is the
correct one. We base this opinion on the meaning of the
Greek word translated "keepers at home," and on the
wider Biblical teaching on the roles of the wife and
mother.
The Meaning of "Keepers at Home"
The Greek word translated "keepers at home" is oikourous.
This word is derived from two Greek words. The first,
oikos, means a house, a dwelling, or, by metonymy, a
household or family. The second, ouros, refers to a
keeper, watcher or guardian, i.e., one who has the
oversight and responsibility for something. Thus, the
basic significance of oikourous is that of a
"housekeeper," that is, one who watches over a household
and family, seeing to it that all members are cared for,
and all things maintained in good order. Oikourous is
used only in the New Testament in Titus 2:5; therefore,
in seeking to accurately discern its meaning we must
look to the Greek literature of the New Testament era.
There, the word oikourous meant watching or keeping the
house. It was employed in reference to a watchdog and to
a rooster, but more germane to the context of Titus 2:5,
oikourous also meant keeping at home, and was employed
as a substantive, "housekeeper," to indicate the
mistress of the house. Furthermore, it was specifically
used in praise of a good wife. Interestingly, oikourous
is utilized contemptuously of a man who refused to go
out to war, designating him a "stay-at-home" man. (Henry
George Liddell and Robert Scott, A Greek-English
Lexicon, 9th ed. (Oxford, 1940), 1205) The verbal form,
oikoureo, meant to watch or keep the house. It was used
of women to indicate those who were at home to watch
over the affairs of a household, and of men to designate
those who stayed at home to avoid military service.
(Ibid) Other closely related words such as 1) oikourema,
meant keeping the house and staying at home, and was
used to refer to women as the "stay-at-homes"; 2)
oikouria, referred to women as those employed in the
work of housekeeping; 3) oikourios, meant the wages or
rewards for the work of keeping the house, but also
designated, significantly, keeping children within the
doors of the house, i.e., keeping them at home. (Ibid)
On the basis of this word study, it is concluded that
oikourous was primarily used in the positive sense to
indicate both the nature and sphere of a married woman's
work. The nature of her work is to manage the affairs of
her household, and the sphere of her work is the home.
It is important to note that oikourous and its cognates
all included the idea of staying at home. Therefore, we
believe that the "keepers at home" are those who stay at
home for the purpose of managing their households.
Paul's admonition is definite: Let the older women teach
the younger women to remain within the sphere of their
own households so that they might properly attend to
their duties of caring for their family and managing its
everyday affairs.
The Biblical Roles of a Wife and Mother The fact that
"keepers at home" refers to the married woman's
responsibility to stay at home to care for her family is
confirmed when the Biblical teaching on the roles of a
wife and mother are considered. Her role is so vital to
the well-being of her husband and children, her
responsibilities in keeping the home so demanding, that
it would not be possible to properly fulfill them unless
she devotes herself entirely to them. She cannot do what
God has called her to do unless she abides at home.
God assigns three specific roles to the wife and mother.
First, she is to be the helper of her husband. "And the
Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be
alone; I will make him an help meet for him" (Gen.
2:18). Here is revealed the primary purpose of the woman
in relation to her husband. The Hebrew word "help" (ezer)
comes from two roots: the first meaning to rescue or
save, and the second meaning to be strong. It indicates
one who is able (has what it takes) to come to the aid
of someone who is in need. Thus, God created the woman
so that she would be able to come to the aid of the man
and be his support and help. The word "meet" means
corresponding to, suitable, or comparable to. The woman
will be man's counterpart equal to him mentally,
spiritually, and physically. Note carefully that "meet"
is a word of essence or nature, while "help" is a word
of function. This means that in essence the woman is
equal to man, but in function she is subordinate to the
man: she is to assist and support him in his calling;
or, her calling is to help enable him to be successful
in his calling. As Calvin states: "Now, since God
assigns the woman as a help to the man, he not only
prescribes to wives the rule of their vocation, to
instruct them in their duty, but he also pronounces that
marriage will really prove to men the best support in
life. We may therefore conclude, that the order of
nature implies that the woman should be the helper of
man." (John Calvin, Commentaries on the First Book of
Moses called Genesis, trans. John King (Grand Rapids,
reprint ed. 1989), 129.) Other important Scriptures
indicate that the woman was made for the man to be his
helper, and that his success in due measure is dependent
on her love and support (1 Cor. 11:7-9; Tit. 2:4; Pr.
12:4; 18:22; 31:10-12, 23).
Second, the wife is to bear and nurture the children.
The bearing and raising of children is one of the
central purposes of marriage (Gen. 1:28). By God's
creative design, the woman is the primary caregiver for
a child; she is called and equipped by him to nurture
the life and soul of a child. She was created with the
marvelous capacity of conceiving and carrying life
within her. After birth, she is prepared by God to nurse
the child and provide the tender love and affection the
child so greatly needs. In conjunction with her duty to
help her husband, the wife has the great privilege and
high calling to nurture the children of the marriage.
The English word "nurture" is a beautiful word to
describe a mother's role. It means to nourish both body
and soul. It refers to the tasks of feeding and
educating a child.
The Scripture is definite in regard to the motherly
responsibilities of the woman. When Paul discusses the
qualifications for those widows who will receive support
from the church, he gives a list of "good works" that
should be present in the report concerning her. The
first good work on the list is "if she has brought up
children" (1 Tim. 5:10). The Greek word translated
"brought up" (tropheo) is extremely important. It means
not only to raise, but also carries with it the idea of
personal attendance, that of being with the child to
care for and to train. Furthermore, the word "brought
up" indicates that the rearing takes place in the home.
The noun form of "brought up," trophia, means "brought
up in the house, reared at home." In other words, the
good work of the widow in view is that she stayed at
home to raise her children! In Paul's instructions to
younger women, he admonishes them to marry and "bear
children" (1 Tim. 5:14). To "bear children" means to
bring them into the world, but also to nurture and train
them. In another text, where Paul discusses the public
ministry of the church, he says that women are not to
teach but be in silence. However, he quickly points them
to the place of ministry God has called them
to"childbearing" (1 Tim. 2:15).
This word is a comprehensive term that comprehends all
the duties of a mother physical care, training, etc.and
could be translated as "motherhood." Hiebert states:
“Childbearing" denotes the proper sphere in which woman
finds the true fulfillment of her destiny. It speaks of
the highest ideal of Christian womanhood. It brings out
that which is noblest and best within her being. Paul's
thought naturally includes the training of children in a
Christian home. It stands in opposition to the sphere of
public teaching closed to her. (D. Edmond Hiebert, First
Timothy (Chicago, 1957), 62) The motherly nurture of
children in their physical and spiritual development is
of utmost importance to the kingdom of God. The next
generation of God's servants is largely in her hands. If
she is faithful in fulfilling her calling, God will
highly honor her, and she shall be counted as one of the
true heroes of the Faith.
Third, the wife is to manage the home. In Paul's charge
to the younger women, he exhorts them to "marry, bear
children, guide the house..." (1 Tim. 5:14). The verb
"guide" (oikodespotein) is an expressive term meaning to
rule the household, to manage family affairs. It
indicates that the sphere of a woman's authority is the
home (as opposed to the spheres of church and state).
Furthermore, "guide" is a present infinitive indicating
that managing the home is the wife's constant
occupation, her full-time job. In the Biblical
description of the virtuous woman, we are told that "she
looketh well to the ways of her household" (Pr. 31:27),
meaning that she is a wise and diligent manager,
supervising all aspects of family life. Additionally,
the Scripture says that through her skill as a manager a
wise woman secures the well-being of her household,
while a foolish woman neglects her managerial
responsibilities and her house comes to ruin (Pr. 14:1).
Thus the roles assigned to the married woman by God
confirms that "keepers at home" refers to those who
remain at home so that they might properly attend to
their duties of caring for their family and managing its
everyday affairs. When her duties are understood in all
their scope and significance, it becomes clear that only
by being "keepers at home" can a wife and mother fulfil
her high calling from God to be a helper to her husband,
a mother to her children, and a manager of her
household.
What About the Virtuous Woman?
A common objection to the interpretation that to be
"keepers at home" requires a married woman to confine
her work, her "career," to that of her home, is that the
virtuous woman of Proverbs 31 did no so confine herself.
We are told that she was a "business woman" engaged in
pursuits beyond the sphere of her own household, thus
justifying the claim that a wife and mother is free to
pursue employment and a career outside of the home. But
the picture of Proverbs 31 is that of a woman managing
her own household, not of a woman leaving the home for
employment elsewhere. Actually, the portrayal of the
virtuous woman provides strong support for the
traditional interpretation of "keepers at home." She is
a wise manager of the resources her husband commits to
her care (vv. 14, 16, 24). She is a true helper to her
husband enabling him to rise to prominence (v. 11, 12,
23). She cares for the needs of her children and
husband, assuring that they are well fed and well
clothed (v. 15, 21). She sees that all their property is
put to good use (v. 16). (The true sense of Proverbs
16:31 is not that she purchases real estate, but that
she puts the family's property to good use. The virtuous
woman sees a field belonging to her husband that is
either sitting idle or is not being used in the most
profitable way. So she, literally, "takes" it (not
"buys" it; see Hebrew text, and the center column
reference of KJV), and sets it to good use by planting a
vineyard there) She even engages in "cottage industry"
by using any available time and strength to make fine
linen and sashes to be sold to the merchants. (But she
herself is not a merchant moving in the marketplace. She
is a woman working out of her home under the authority
of her husband (not some other man) to provide extra
income for the family as she is able.)
Conclusion
May God be pleased to restore to the church the proper
understanding of "keepers at home" so that the Christian
family and the Christian church might once again benefit
from having the wife and mother in the home filling it
with her presence, love, care, and wisdom. We often
speak of the home as being the foundational unit of both
church and state. We often say, "As goes the family, so
goes all else." So let us give it the priority it
deserves, and return the wife to her indispensable role
of helping her husband, nurturing her children, and
managing her household. We know that a well-ordered home
is one of life's greatest treasures. So let us act
accordingly, and return the jewel that truly makes the
home a treasure. Let us obey God's law when he commands
the wife and mother to stay at home so that she can
properly care for her family and manage her household.
Let us give honor to "keepers at home" for t
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