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Most people are insecure.
It is surprising that many apparently secure people are
insecure within. Often people suffer from two kinds of
insecurity. One is very common and, is a little
reasonable. The other is personal insecurity which is
almost a psychological disorder. Presently, we will only
discuss about this 'personal insecurity.'
Insecurity differs with inferiority complex in one basic
factor. Usually people at lower levels suffer from
inferiority complex; but insecure people are mostly
found at higher levels. People who haven't achieved much
in life feel inferiority complex when they come across
others who have achieved much and stand tall. But some
people at the top rungs of achievement feel insecure
when they see a person at lower level climbing up the
ladder. They are afraid that the climber may come up and
upset them from their secure seats.
In fact, most of human strife originates from
insecurity. If we analyse history, even certain wars
were triggered off by insecurity. In the Bible we see a
few characters who are perfect samples of insecurity.
King Saul is perhaps the best example. When David killed
Goliath Saul was happy that the threat to Israel was
over. But when Saul saw people adoring David as a hero
and praising him with songs, he got insecure. He knew in
his inner being that if David was allowed to live
freely, he would do more exploits, and the people would
make him king one day. He even told Jonathan that David
should be killed in order to ensure kingship to his
descendants.
Throughout history this cycle has been repeated numerous
times - the insecure leader trying to finish off
upcoming leaders or even potential leaders. But why is a
leader insecure? As a matter of fact, not all the
leaders are insecure. Then why some leaders are
insecure? In every case, insecure leader has a weakness
or defect in his person or life. It can be a flaw in his
character, or a doubt about his physical or mental
abilities. Even it can be about his background or
education or talents. In some case, a leader is insecure
because he has something to hide, and he imagines if
another leader comes up he would be exposed.
A leader without a weakness, defect or flaw need not be
insecure. He has nothing to hide; he is fully aware and
confident about his abilities. If a leader gets
insecure, when another leader comes up the ladder, he
surely has a weakness or flaw or something to hide. In
early cartoon movies, there used to be a usual theme of
two people donning the costume of a lion and showing
tricks in circus. In the costume they appear like a
normal lion. The cartoon shows the panic-stricken
costume lion fleeing from the presence of a real circus
lion. The real lion would be surprised why the other
'lion' is afraid of its presence. Insecure leaders are
just like this costume lion. They don't have the real
mettle inside them, and so they get scared and insecure
when they come across a person or leader with real stuff
who could outsmart them. But often, the 'insecure'
leader is not having any defect actually. Only he thinks
that he has some defect. It is only a feeling of
insecurity.
Insecurity causes leaders to detect and 'destroy'
potential threats to their leadership position. It is
insecurity that causes some pastors to scheme and
somehow oust able lay leaders from the church, so that
the lay leader would not get a chance to grow and
'challenge' their position in the future. In every
institution, like universities, schools, Bible colleges,
companies, etc., and in every area of human activity
like science, sports, politics, etc. you can see
insecure leaders. Such leaders make their lives and the
lives of others around them miserable. In the Bible we
can see a lot of such insecure people. The first son of
humankind, Cain, felt insecure when God was pleased with
the sacrifice of Abel, and killed him, to eliminate the
threat to his position of first-born. Joseph's elder
brothers felt insecure because of the dream of Joseph.
They put him in the pit and later sold to the Egyptians
to ensure that they would never have to bow before their
younger brother.
King Saul was insecure, and chased and hunted David to
destroy him so that his kingship would be secure. He
made his life miserable for 38 years. He also made the
whole nation, the army and David miserable during that
period. Later when Absalom usurped power, he wanted to
destroy David, to make his throne secure.
In the New Testament, King Herod became extremely
insecure when he heard from the wise-men of East about
the birth of a king in his land. He got all children
below two years massacred just to ensure the security of
his throne! He himself was miserable, and he caused a
great mourning all over the country. This is what
happens when insecure leaders do something to secure
their positions. Why should one make others also
miserable? Is there a remedy?
Of course, the remedy is in God only. As David says, God
is our refuge and strength. He is our security. It is
God who appoints one as leader at a particular place. So
no one can cast him down from his position. But when God
appoints another person, no one can stop him from coming
to that position. When Saul was hunting David, David was
not insecure. He found his security in God. He was never
insecure. That is why he did not harm Saul even when he
got many chances. Saul was no threat for him to become
king one day. He trusted God, and believed that if God
wanted him to be king, then he need not feat any
threats, not even the present king. Even when Absalom
turned against him and wrested power, David was not
insecure. David instructed his army not to harm Absalom
for his own sake. Another incident is when Prophet
Nathan pointed at David and accused him of adultery and
murder. David did not feel threatened by the prophet or
by the truth revealed by him. Because he knew that his
security came from God. This is the key to personal
security. Trust in God and His help. A leader may have
many weaknesses, but he can trust God to help him
overcome them. He need not hide anything. A leader can
confess his mistakes or sins before God, and get a pure
conscience.
These are the keys to personal security. Believe that it
is God who has appointed you to one leadership position.
So whatever happens, and whoever comes up, as long as
God wants you to be in that position, nothing will
happen. On the other side, if God wants you out of that
position, then whatever you do or whoever you try to
keep away, you can not hold on to that position.
Secondly, you have to be transparent, and don't keep
anything for hiding. Confess your mistakes, and be
yourself. Trust in God and be secure. Then you will be
happy, and others with you will also be happy. At least
you need not make others miserable. If you have to leave
one position, thank God for His help so far, and wait
for God's guidance. Surely, God will take you to the
best position which is prepared for you. You have to be
faithful in whatever position you are in now, and God
will raise you and appoint you in higher positions. So
be happy, and be secure in the Lord. You need not scheme
against anyone, even if he is covertly scheming against
you. Leave the matter to God and let Him handle the
situation. He will lead you in the right path into new
heights. That will be a lasting and secure place for
you. And you can sleep peacefully, safe and secure in
God's faithful hands!
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